第4章 Introduction: Beyond War and Peace

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OURTWOMOSTONwaystoaddresshestsocialchallengesaretheextreones:aggressivewarandsubssivepeabsp;herofthesewaysworksWebsp;try,gunsorneyorvotes,hthroughwhaewant,regardlessofwhatotherswant-butiablytheothersphbabsp;Orwebsp;trynothanythgonathatleavesoursituationjtasitis

Theseextrewaysareextrely,onallscalesOneonone,websp;bephyorflibsp;averseAork,websp;bebossyoalongtogetalong"Inourities,websp;setthgsupsothattheyaretheantthenbsp;tobe,orwebsp;abdicateInnationaffairs,websp;kedealstogetourway,orwebsp;letothershavetheirwayIniioions-whetherthechallengeisclitegeortraderulesorpeabsp;theMiddleEast-websp;trytoioseoursotionsoneveryoneelse,orwebsp;iateendlesslyTheseextre,waystoaddresshestsocialchallengesuallyfail,leavgstubsp;andpaTherearenyexceptionstothesegeneralizationsabouttheprevalenbsp;oftheseextreways,butthefabsp;thattheseareexceptionsprovesthegeneralruleWeneed-andnypeoplearewondevelopg-different,unwaysofaddressgsocialchallenges:waysbeyondthesedegeiveforofeace

AcharacterRent,JonathanLarson'sBroadwaysibsp;aboutstrugglgartistsandsisNewYorkCity,says,"Theoppositeofwarisn'tpeabsp;it'screation!"[1]Toaddresshestsocialchallenges,weneedawaythatisherwarnorpeabsp;butllectivecreationHowbsp;we-createnewsocialrealities?

TWOFUALDRIVES

To-createnewsocialrealities,wehavetoworkwithodistbsp;fundantalforbsp;thataretension:powerandloveThisassertionrequiresanexpnatiohewords"power"and"love"aredefedbysonydifferentpeoplesonydifferenaysInthisbookIeounualdefitionsofpowerandlovesuggestedbytheologianandphilosopherPaulTillibsp;Hisdefitioological:theydealwithwhatandwhypowerandloveare,ratherthanwhattheyenableorprodubsp;Iethesedefitioheyrgtruewithexperienbsp;ofractibsp;isrequiredtoaddresstoughchallealllevels:dividual,group,ity,society

Tillibsp;defespoweras"thedriveofeverythglivgtorealizeitself,withcreasgiyaensity"Sopowerthissehedrivetoachieveone'spurpose,togetone'sjobdoogrowHedefesloveas"thedrivetowardstheunityoftheseparated"[2]Solovethissehedrivetoreebsp;andkewholethahibsp;hasbebsp;orappearsfragheseowaysoflookgatpowerandlove,ratherthanthereideasofoppressivepowerandrontibsp;love(represeheverbythegreherose),areatthereofthisbook

OURFULLWORLD

Weotaddresshchallengesonlythroughdrivgtowardsself-realizationoronlythroughdrivgtowardsunityWeodobothOftenweassuthatallittakestocreatesothgnew-whetherbessorpolitibsp;orteologyorart-ispurposefulnessorpowerThisisbecaeweoftenassuthatthetextwhibsp;wecreateisayworld:anopenfrontier,awhitespabsp;abnkvasIhisassutionisrrect

Let'slookatahistoribsp;exaleIn1788,BritishsettlersarrivedAtraliaaeredthedigenopeoplewhohadarrived40,000yearsearlierThishistoryilstratesnotonlythedentrepreneurialisnbsp;ofpeoplewillgtotravecrosstheglobetocreateanewsocialreality,butalsothehunandelogibsp;devastationthatthispibsp;produbsp;Forrethanoturies,theflibsp;beeelersandabalpeoplesAtraliawasfradterofthedoeofterranulli,aRoernbsp;thatans"ndbelonggtonoone,"or"etynd"Iasnotuntil1992thattheHighCourtofAtraliaruledthatthetihadfabsp;neverbeenterranulli,andthatthedern-daysettlershadtoworkoutanewwayoflivgtogetherwiththeabalpeople

NoneoflivesterranulliWebsp;pretendthatourworldisety,butitisnotOurearthiscreasglyfullofpeopleandbuildgsandcarsandpileseOuratsphereiscreasglyfullofcarbondioxideOursocietyiscreasglyfullofdiverse,strogvoibsp;andideasandculturesThisfullnessisthefundantalreasonwhy,ordertoaddresshestsocialchallenges,weoeloynotonlypowerbutalsolove

Achalleoughwhenitislexthreeways[3]Achallengeisdynacallylexwhendeffebsp;areterdepeandfarapartspabsp;andti;subsp;challesessfullybeaddressedpiebsp;bypiebsp;butonlybyseegthesystenbsp;asawholeAchallengeissociallylexwheorsvolvedhavedifferentperspectivesandis;subsp;challesessfullybeaddressedbyexpertsorauthorities,butonlywiththeeoftheactorstheelvesAndachallengeisgeivelylexwhenitsfutureisfundantallyunfaliaranduerned;subsp;challesessfullybeaddressedbyapplyg"bestpractibsp;sotionsfronbsp;thepast,butonlybygrognew,"practibsp;sotions

Thefullnessofourworldprodubsp;thisthreefoldlexityWebsp;pretendthaearedepeandthahaedodoesnotaffebsp;others(andwhatothersdodoesnotaffebsp;),butthisisnottrueWebsp;pretendthateverybodyseesthgsthesaway,orthatourdifferenbsp;bsp;beresolvedpurelythroughrketorpolitibsp;aletition,butthisisnottrueAndwebsp;pretendthaebsp;dothgstheayshave,orthaebsp;firstfigureoutandtheetherrebsp;answer,butthisisnottrue

Wheendthatourworldisetyratherthanfull,andthatourchallengesaresileratherthanlex,wegetstubsp;Ifwewanttogetunstubsp;weoaowledgeourterdependenbsp;operate,andfeelourwayforwardWehereforetoeloynotonlyourpowerbutalsoourloveIfthissoundseasy,itisnotItisdifficultanddangero

TWOPITFALLS

Powerandlovearedifficulttoworkwithbecaeeabsp;ofthenbsp;hasosidesPowerhasageivesideandadegeiveside,and-lessobvioly-lovealsohasageivesideandadegeivesideFenistschorPaoMelchioripotedouttothaebsp;seetheseosetsofosidesifwelookathistoricallystructedgenderrolesThefather,eodygsepoesouttowork,todohisjobThegeivesideofhispoweristhathebsp;createsothgvaabletheworldThedegeivesideofhispoweristhathebsp;bebsp;sofohisworkthathedenieshisetohislleaguesandfaly,andsobebsp;arobotoratyrant

Thether,bytrast,eodygfenelove,staysathotoraisethechildrenThegeivesideofherloveisthatshegiveslife,literallytoherchildandfigurativelytoherwholefalyThedegeivesideofherloveisthatshebsp;bebsp;soidentifiedwithanderagofherchildandfalythatshedeheirandespeciallyherownneedforself-realization,andsostuntstheirandherowngrowth[4]

LoveiswhatkespeivesteadofdegeivePoweriswhatkeslovegeivesteadofdegeivePowerandlovearethereforeexactlytaryInorderforeabsp;toachieveitsfullpotential,itheotherJtastheterranulliperspectiveoffogonlyonpowerisanerror,sotooisthepopperspectivethat"allyouneedislove"

PsychologistRolloMay,afriendofPaulTillibsp;warhedangersofdisegpower(whibsp;hereferredtoas"will")fronbsp;love"Loveandwill,"hewrote,"areterdepeandbelongtogetherBotharejunctiveprocessesofbeg-areagouttofenbsp;others,ldg,f,creatgthesessoftheotherButthisisonlypossible,annersense,ifoneopensothesatitothefenbsp;oftheotherWillwithoutlovebebsp;niputionandlovewithouillbebsp;senttalThebottonbsp;thendropsoutofthejunctiveetionsandprocesses"[5]May'sjunctiveprocessesalsooperateonasociallevel,andwebsp;effebsp;nonviolentsocialgeonlyifwebsp;ehourpowerandourlove

Ohegreatestpractitionersofnonviolentsocialge,MartLutherKgJr,wasbothapractibsp;activistandaspiritualleaderHedenstratedawayofaddressgtoughsocialchallehaentbeyondaggressivewarandsubssivepeabsp;therebytributgtothecreationofnewsocialrealitiestheUatesandaroundtheworldInhisstpresidentialspeebsp;totheSouthernChristianLeadershipferenbsp;Kg-dragonhisdoctoralstudiesofTillich'swork-ehasizedtheessentialtaritybeeenpowerandlove[6]"Powerwithoutloveisrecklessandabive,"Kgsaid,"andlovewithoutpowerissenttandanec"[7]

Myownexperienbsp;ofthepastentyyearsentirelybearsoutKg'sanalysisPowerwithoutloveisrecklessandabiveIfthoseofengagedsocialgeabsp;torealizeourselveswiththaeandothersareterdepe,theresuliltbestbeiiveandaorst,oppressiveorevengenocidalAndlovewithoutpowerissenttandanebsp;Ifwereizeourterdependenbsp;andabsp;tounifywithothers,butdosoawaythathobblesourownorrowth,theresuliltbestbeiuandaorst,deceitfullyrefthestatquo

Powerwithoutloveprodubsp;srched-earthwarthatdestroyseverythgweholddearLovewithoutpowerprodubsp;lifelesspeabsp;thatleavesstubsp;pbsp;BothoftheseareterribleoutsWeofdabetterway

Inhisspeebsp;Kgwentontosay,"Thisllisionofioralpowerwithpowerlessralitystitutesthejorcrisisofourti"[8]ThisllisiontuesbecaeourporizationofpowerandlovetuesInoursocietiesanditiesandanizations,andwitheabsp;of,weuallyfda"powerca,"whibsp;paysattentiontoisanddifferences,anda"loveca,"whibsp;paysattentiontoesandalitiesThellisioheseocas-theworldsofbess,politibsp;andsocialge,angothers-iedesourabilitytresshestsocialchallenges

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Powerandlovestandatrightanglesahespabsp;ofsocialgeIfwewanttogetunstubsp;andtovearoundthisspace-ifwewanttoaddresshestchallenges-westuandandworkwithbothofthesedrives

Ratherthanachoibsp;tobedeonewayoranother,powerandlovestituteaperdileathatstbereciledtuolyaivelyThisreciliatioheorybuthardpractibsp;CarlJungdoubtedwhetheriasevenpossiblefortheseodrivestoexistthesaperson:"Wherelns,thereisnowillower;ahewillpowerisparaunt,loveisgTheoneisbuttheshadowoftheother"[9]HisstudentRobertJohnsonsaid,"Probablythesttroublesopairofoppositesthaebsp;trytorecileisloveandpowerOurdernworldistorntoshredsbythisdichoto,andonefdsnyrefairesthansessestheattettorecilethe"[10]

Ihaveseennyexalesofrecklessandabivepowerwithoutlove,andnyexalesofsenttandanebsp;lovewithoutpowerIhaveseenfarfewerexalesofpowerwithloveToofewofarecapableofeloygpowerwithloveMoreofolearn

Ifwearetoseed-creatgnewsocialrealities,weotchoosebeeenpowerandloveWestchoosebothThisbookexploreshow